Online Dating At The End Of The Rainbow

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Every relationship begins at the beginning of the rainbow. All relationship is built with its conversations and personal opinions. Along with all the mutual understanding a relationship gets stronger and stronger in time. However as we begin to date online, we have a lot of fairy tales that begin to go on amid the conversations. We begin to live inside a fairy tale, which would later cause several mentality issues to one’s life.

There are several women in this world who have desires of being a mother. Especially women who kept their lives away from social media and spent most of their times with family and siblings is the reason why they have such desires. It is indeed the world’s most beautiful desire. What could beat the happiness of carrying your very own flesh and blood that you lifted in your belly for months without even seeing or hearing their voices. It’s like an unknown relationship, with no respond from the other side, but still you have so much of hope and happiness at your end of the rainbow.

As time passes, women begin to speak with their belly, this is not due to mentality issues, but due to affection that they have in their heart for the beloved and most meaningful part of their lives. Yet there are several other women who even hate to hear the name of a baby, because they are so obsessed with perfecting their lives, and being the center of attention at all times. Even men these days, cannot keep their patience strong as they are also in need to feel the love and joy of carrying their own flesh and blood in their hands. This indeed is a beautiful feeling, especially when you are in the waiting room, and the doctor comes and tells you “It’s a boy” or “It’s a girl” and you just cannot stop smiling and just so curious to go see your beloved wife and your baby.

This is the sign of a perfectly strong relationship that online dating can bring. Even at the end of the rainbow the picture is as perfect as it always was. However, it does not turn out the same way for all couples. Mostly dating that begins online tends to break apart within a period of time. Some serious cases are that it could even break after an engagement. As this happens, both parties, especially the women are left with nothing but a heart that cannot be fixed. They keep thinking over and over about this problem, which makes them suffer with a mentality state of mind.

The reason for this state is from the beginning of their beautiful rainbow, they began to live within a world of fairy tale, a lot of conversations where they spoke about their dreams and fantasies. However when things break apart and all of these fairy tales turns into nothing but fake words some women are unable to bear with this feeling. It’s quiet funny how when we grow up from an infant, until we turn teenagers our parents tell us several stories and fairy-tales, but however as time goes by we learn to realize that it’s just a story. Yet even after knowing all that, we tend to fall for more stories from the ones we fell in love with online, and are later left with a mentality state that leads to a total loss of life.

All those years that you lived, to grow up comes to the end of your rainbow in such manner. Where you even have no idea about who you are, or even of who your parents are. It’s really sad to notice people with mentality state due to online dating as well as other reasons, sometimes we just wish we could be there at least as a friend to guide them through this and help them find their way out. But in the end, we are all just too late. Letting your child learn and listen to fairy tales is not a bad thing, however too much of these stories could build up an unbreakable desire in your child’s heart, which could also lead them into such mentality when they come to realize the cold heart truth one day, that all of those were nothing but illusions. Its best that we keep our children limited from fairy tales and desires for this is the only way we can protect them, otherwise we would just have to lose them.

Not every fairy tale has a perfect ending, for amid all fairy tales there are few characters that are gone forever. Nothing in life comes to us with advantages only, there are several dis-advantages that we should face, in order to find out a perfect ending for our perfect rainbow.

What To Do When You Want Your Ex Back

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Reigniting a lost flame is one of life’s most common, endless pursuits. It’s something nearly everyone gets themselves doing at one point or another, and if you’re reading this, you probably got yourself in that conundrum right now. It’s completely normal to fantasize the past, but how you handle your desires is what matters the most in the end.

However, unless you’re willing to go out of your way to make plenty of sacrifices to solve the problems that caused the breakup in the first place, reuniting should be completely out of the picture.

To finally settle on a decision on whether you want them back or not, here are a few crucial questions you should ask yourself first.

1) What caused the breakup?

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People break up for all sorts of reasons, some legitimate, others just mind-bogglingly insane – from affairs to physical and emotional distance, perhaps even abuse, to the simple loss of the initial flames. Everyone has their reasons, and they are reasons they have to live with their whole lives.

Do you really want to go back to it? Are you ready to deal with the problem that was originally tabled? Think about whatever reason led to your breakup and if it’s something you can bring yourself to get over and live with since there’s no guarantee that it won’t happen again.

2) Why do you want to get back together?

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What forces are driving you to your decision? Is because of outside pressure from your kids or family is? Remember that this is your decision, something you’re going to have to live with, not your parents nor friends.

Ask yourself this simple question, do you really still love them or are you simply worried about the finer issues like a smaller income or being lonely? Would you get back into the relationship if everything else in your life was completely in place?.

If the answer to any of the latter questions is no, you probably don’t want him, back. You just need to be in a relationship

3) Put all the cards out on the table

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If your relationship was bad right from the start, chances already were that you were going to break up for some reason that’s impossible to get your head around, but that’s usually just the last straw, not the real problem.

If you feel sad because you really did end it over something as trivial as a forgotten birthday, ask this crucial question – ‘Why did you really break up?’ Chances are, the problem was rooted farther inside the relationship than a simple slip-up

4) Is the problem chronic?

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Is he/she perpetual liar? A serial adulterer? Do they simply have no control of their anger and no matter what you do there’s just no helping them? Have you given them a second chance before and they already betrayed you?

If the answer to any of the above questions, or any like it is yes, chances are they are never going to change and the effort really isn’t worth your time. No matter what they say, pack your bags and leave.

5) Can you absolutely forgive them?

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If you’re completely certain that they’ve changed and you can trust them, are you willing to forgive them for whatever they did? Did they apologies and mean it? That’s really up to you to decide.


7 Steps On How To Save A Relationship

spouse relationshipRelationships are just like any other living creature, they are born and they need to be nurtured then they grow up and become stable and mature in nature, but they still need to be taken care of and fed all the time. When this doesn’t happen, a relationship could fall ill and even die. In this article we describe the 7 steps on how to save a relationship.

1)  Is your relationship worth saving?

Ask if your relationship is worth saving? Some people think that they should be left in a bad relationship because of the children while they get very hurt being raised up between 2 parents who hate each other. You should make sure that your relationship is worth saving on its own.

2) Make the commitment

Once you have decided to save your relationship, you must make the commitment. It is going to be hard work and effort. You need to give it the time and the effort. Take time off and plan to have a talk with your partner.

3) Understand the core problem

understand the core problemMany people misunderstand the problem that their relationship is facing. Instead, they get trapped in dealing with the symptoms. Having an affair or a spouse who spends time watching porn is not the real core of the problem, but could the symptom of the lack of intimacy. A spouse, who is keeping secrets and doesn’t communicate, could be someone who doesn’t trust their partner. Dealing with the main problem is the main key to save your relationship.

4) Ask yourself if you are doing it wrong

Have you grown distant and less caring? Maybe you used to remember what your spouse used to like but not anymore. Are you paying attention to your spouse’s needs? Are you listening to them even when they are not speaking? Being in a real relationship doesn’t mean that you take the other partner for granted.

5) Give it the time

Make sure that you devote the time to talk to your partner about your relationship. Make sure that you are both comfortable and relaxed to talk openly. Hold your partner’s hand and show them that you are willing to reconnect.

6) Show that you understand

It takes two to tango, so if you are under the impression or planning to imply that everything is your spouse’s problem, then you are way off finding a solution for your problems. Show appreciation and make them feel that you understand what they do. Some husbands feel frustrated that their wives are giving their full attention to children while wives feel that all the kids’ issues are draining them. It is very important to show your spouse that what they do is highly appreciated and that they are good enough.

7) Understand that it is not all rainbows and butterflies

rainbows and butterfliesOnce you have decided to sit down to talk to your spouse, you have to know that it is not going to be all laughs and giggles. There will be some tears and tantrums. Remember that you are trying to save your relationship so this means that yours is already in a bad situation. If you have decided that your relationship is worth saving, then you should give it all the effort needed.